Would You Want To Meet One Of Your Rapists 25 Years Later
July 8, 2013
When I saw a tweet earlier today from a blogging friend in regards to a new posting he had done I had no idea of what I was about to read, much less it was a personal account of a horrific part of his past.
I thought about writing something but decided not even though his blog is public as what he divulged is so personal. That is until just a short time before writing this I saw another tweet of how he received an email from another man proving that his posting is doing some good for men who are raped by other men.
The rape of men is oft not reported for a variety of reasons the least of which is shame and “who would believe it”. I’m not talking about boys being raped and assaulted by pedophiles but an adult man raping another adult man.
I can remember a made for TV movie in 1985 The Rape Of Richard Beck starring Richard Crenna which was one of the first movies to address the topic. Yes we hear about rape in prison among males, have seen it portrayed many times in movies and on TV including the award-winning HBO series Oz.
For many it’s such a taboo topic, and indeed thought, that this could and does actually happen it makes you wonder how many men, straight, gay or bi have lived in silence and who have not reported incidents to authorities.
Getting back to my friend, over the years via email we have shared a lot which of course I won’t go into here but what I read today really threw me for a loop as I expected the posting to be about another but certainly not him.
He goes into rather graphic detail as to want happened to him 25 years ago at the hands of three men and the quandary of what brought him to write the posting, one of his assailants wants to meet with him all this time later.
The graphic I chose to use for this posting is from a public service campaign run in the UK in 2012. The following is from the article, Professor Kim Etherington, University of Bristol and Fellow of BACP said: “Males are taught from a very early age that they should be ‘strong’ and ‘in-charge’. To be successfully masculine is to be sexually potent, competitive with other males in sexual matters, and dominant with sexual interactions. Being raped challenges and negates all these pre-conceptions.”
You can read the posting of my friend Sayen CroWolf’ by going here.
Perhaps by doing this posting it will help another man overcome the devastation of the unthinkable, being raped by another man, getting help and counseling and indeed reporting such an incident to authorities.